Ideas of Wrong-doing and Right-doing

There’s saying: “You mustn’t lie but you don’t have to always tell the truth”.

This sentence makes sense to me mathematically. If lying and telling the truth are considered bad and good acts respectively, therefore, I can generalize it to all the bad and good acts that I know of; one such could be to love and show affection to one. However, this may seem a bit off-key or unsentimental to many people.

I think, however out of experience, spending our love and affection for someone should be conditional. Conditional to the extent we know them, conditional to the extent they deserve. Differently acted could more often result in a melancholy state.

I also think that love and affection are invaluable and shouldn’t be spent easily. It takes a heart to love someone and if not spent on the right person it can cost a heart and a lifetime of making up for it.

I have always followed the philosophy that we must love people irregardless of the consequences. Now I question myself; is it true after all? Should I?

All said, I’m always drawn toward this line of a poem by Rumi:
“Beyond the ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing, there’s a field, I’ll meet you there”. 

Cheers!

Iman Ghavam